Hey moms! Do you ever wonder why you do the things you do when absolutely nobody seems to notice? As you wash the bed linens and blankets for your husband and children do you ever wonder why you even bother? Or when you clean the windows or dust the picture frames, does it bug you that no one stops and says, “Wow! Those windows look wonderful! Thank you!”?
Every once in a blue moon I find myself pondering this. Now I know that eventually it would be very noticeable if these tasks weren’t completed. The beds would become nasty and stink from night after night of sleeping and drooling. The windows would become so filthy that the beautiful morning sun would have to fight to shine through. Those picture frames would eventually get a thick layer of dust on them, clouding the gorgeous smiling faces of that family you love so much. That family that doesn’t seem to see all you do. So, we may ask ourselves why we even bother? Let me tell you what I think of when these pitiful thoughts start to creep into my mind.
2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.” – Matthew 6:2-4
Now I know these scriptures are typically interpreted as giving money to the needy, but I see “giving to the needy” differently. You don’t have to be poor or homeless to be “needy”. All of us are needy in some way. My family and my children are needy. I don’t mean this in a negative sense but rather in a literal one. They “need” me to do these tasks. My children are 1 and 3 years old. They certainly can’t be expected to wash linens and windows and while my husband is more than capable, he works very long, hard hours outside the home. I’m blessed to work right here in the midst of my babies every single day. He needs me to take on these daily, weekly or monthly tasks in order to allow him time to rest his body and mind. I know that may seem sexist to many, but it’s my joy to serve them all! It’s what I desired, prayed for and received by my gracious God. Also, it helps that my husband never says no to any of my requests for time away, whether it be an hour long bath (which I take nightly) or a night out with friends. He’s wonderful and I treasure him as he does me.
Then there’s the other thought. If these things actually did go undone it might be that I’m not there to do them. Maybe I’m physically unable, ill or worse, dead. Sure my family would finally notice but it’d be for the wrong reasons. The sadness and pain that would accompany their new found revelation of how much I truly did would be devastating. I can’t imagine them having to deal with the loss of a wife or mother. Having the guilt of finally knowing all I had done and not being able to show gratitude or appreciation. I don’t want them to feel those terrible feelings. I hope they never do!
This is why I complete my tasks joyfully and with a smile on my face (Most of the time. I am human!). They may not notice but I know the One who does and I know I will receive a reward for my loving servitude to those who need me regardless of whether they notice or not.
So next time you’re wondering who sees, who notices, just remember Matthew 6: 2-4. He sees, He notices and He will reward you for your service in heaven! Also, never forget how much your family loves you and be grateful that they need you so! It’s a wonderful gift to be needed! It means you have or do something that is valuable! Take pride in all you do and know that it’s seen!